Fear

Fear

ISIAH 61

Years ago, I was beginning to see that I had an Isaiah 61 anointing to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free. I remember telling God, “I will help people, but please do not ever bring me the people who have endured _____.” I felt overwhelmed in ministering to people who had that much trauma. I wanted the ‘little cases.’ I remember God teaching me that I was overwhelmed because I did not know my authority in that area. If I wanted to grow in helping people, I had to grow in my understanding of WHO I am, which comes from WHOSE I am, and once that was settled, I would be able to walk in the authority He has given me in that area to help people. This principle applies to each of us in our lane and calling.

I am prophesying to myself when I say WE WILL GAIN THE KEYS OF HEAVEN TO HELP OUR CHILDREN OVERCOME WHAT THEY HAVE ENDURED THIS PAST YEAR. THE FEAR WILL BE BROKEN IN JESUS NAME. THE FEAR OF GERMS AND DISEASE WILL BE REPLACED BY THE POWER TO HEAL SICKNESS AND DISEASE. CONNECTION AMONG THEIR PEERS WILL BE RESTORED STRONGER THAN EVER. THE FEAR OF MAN WILL BE SILENCED. THE FEAR OF IMPENDING DOOM WILL BE EXPOSED AS A LIAR. PURITY WILL REIGN IN THEIR MIND AND BODY. THEY WILL BE S*XUALLY STABLE. THEY WILL WALK IN GREAT AUTHORITY BECAUSE THEY HAVE TASTED THE OTHER SIDE, AND IT IS NOT SATISFYING. THEY WILL THROW OFF EVERYTHING COMING AGAINST THEM TO HINDER THEM AND WILL OVERCOME WITH THE KEYS AND STRATEGY OF HEAVEN TO BE THE LIGHT TO IMPACT THOSE AROUND THEM.

As a spiritual mama, I plead the blood of Jesus around our children’s minds, bodies and spirits and call them forth to walk in the design and calling they were knit together for by the Creator of the world. I bless them in the name of Jesus to rise up, come out from under the world, and learn how to walk in the Kingdom on earth. Holy Spirit, fill them with Your love, power, and presence. Lead them, convict them, speak to their hearts, and show them Your way.

FEAR OF MAN

It is your inheritance as a Son or Daughter to be FREE from the fear of man. The fear of man is taught. Children are born trusting and carefree. Through experiences and instruction from adults, children are taught to fear man.

“Jesus, will You please show me who I need to forgive for introducing me to the fear of man? I chose to forgive _____ for teaching me (directly or indirectly) that man is to be feared. I break agreement with the fear of man and no longer give it space to influence my obedience, choices, and peace. I declare I am a child of the Creator of the universe, and He has my back. I am covered and protected. What can mere man do to me when God is on my side?”

HE IS WITH US

There isn’t a mom out there who can’t identify with my friend:

“This week, one of my kiddos is trying out for a new sport. For a few reasons, there is a good chance he won’t make the team. He knows this but is hopeful and excited to give it a go. I love this! At the same time, it stirs emotions in my own heart of fear. I think it triggers the times I faced disappointment or rejection as a kid and also stirs my mama heart that wants to protect my kids from any pain. But the truth is that facing disappointment is not the source of our greatest pain. Our greatest pain comes when we have to walk through troubles and disappointments alone. On the flip side, knowing that there is always someone by our side to walk through the ups and downs of life gives us strength and courage to face the big emotions that come with disappointment and find our way back to joy. As I was meditating on this thought, I heard a song on my computer that reiterated this point (Highs and Lows by Hillsong). It was as if God was confirming in my heart that He is with my kids through all they face in life and that He is with me. God tells us not to fear – not because trials won’t come, not because we will feel no pain in life, but because He is with us. What great comfort and encouragement this brings to my soul.”

PROTECTED

This is so important to understand that the enemy stands on the sidelines of your journey, watching God draw you near to Him and you responding. He has NO legal right to interfere, so he stands on the side whispering that we should be afraid that God will ask too much of us, that we can’t really trust Him, etc., in hopes that someone will stop, pause and proceed with caution out of FEAR, Rebuke that fear in Jesus’ name and tell it to hush! Fear (especially fear of God in this way) does not lead you. Holy Spirit does, and He always leads you into ALL Truth. God leads you (John 16:13), and His plans for you are GOOD (Jeremiah 29:11).

FEAR NO MORE

Fear has no place in our homes and parenting. It is time we rise up and issue eviction notices. 

Ask – “Jesus, is the door to fear open?”

Ask – “Holy Spirit, will You please show me who I need to forgive for introducing me to fear of _____?” 

Relax and trust He is able to show you. Just receive His revelation. 

Pray – “I make the choice to forgive _____ for _____ and for introducing me to a spirit of fear over (name the specific fear).”

Ask – “Jesus, will You please show me what lies I have believed because of the fear?” Allow Him to show you. 

Declare – “I break agreement with the lie that _____. I cancel all assignments against me and my family associated with this lie in Jesus’ name.”

Command – “Spirit of fear, I command you to leave in Jesus’ name. You may no longer speak to my mind, the things I see, the things I hear, the words I speak out, or the words I speak to myself. You no longer have a legal right to influence me in this area. Holy Spirit, I invite You to come and fill my mind, eyes, ears, and words with Your peace, power, and love in Jesus’ name.”

TAKING BACK YOUR AUTHORITY

A mom reached out to me for parent coaching and began to share her dilemma with figuring out if she should send her child to public school or homeschool. The motivating factor was the concern over the sex ed material taught to the younger students. As I listened to her share her heart, I replied, “Neither choice is right for you.” She was perplexed as her daughter had to get an education somewhere. I told her that she was not afraid of sex itself but rather a spirit twisting God’s original design behind it. Sex wasn’t the issue; the spirit behind it was. I told her that unless and until she knew her authority over that spirit sending her child to public school or homeschooling them would produce the same results because fear is the driving factor. Fear does not chase us. Sons and Daughters stop, turn, and face the fear and then use their authority over it AND THEN make healthy decisions for their children from that place of authority. While I have gone to great measures over the years to guard my child’s eyes, I also know I have authority over the spirit behind it and walk in that authority in my home. Because I have exposed the spirit to my children and taught them their authority over it, too, they can discern when that spirit is in operation and know how to take authority over it themselves.

FEAR OF MAN

Working through the fear of man is part of your calling!!

RESOLVING CHILDHOOD OWIES

What does a heart splinter in our children look like? A child of mine made a mess – a big one in my book. And then attempted to cover it up even though I have repetitively taught my children that coming to me is always the better route than keeping it from me. They lied to my face not once but FIVE times. Each time I could feel it and finally encouraged them to take some time to gain the confidence to answer honestly. They did, kinda (not really). An hour later, I invited them to talk about it, and their response lacked heart and vulnerability. I could feel FEAR from them and kept reminding them that partnering with fear in their messes would not help them clean it up. They commented about always being the one to disappoint me (which was odd because this child is the one who goes out of their way NOT to disappoint others almost to a fault). While I rarely use isolation as a parenting tool, I felt like this child needed to sit out and spend some time processing on their own. I brought them dinner and reminded them that I loved them but that three issues were going on. #1. The original mess. #2. Their response to the mess. #3. Their belief that they are always a disappointment.

They grabbed their journal and began to talk to Jesus about the splinter in their heart. By the time dinner was over, genuine tears were present. I invited them to share, and with great emotion, they said they asked Jesus to show them when they first felt like they were a disappointment and recalled a time six years ago. I did not manage my emotions well. She did something wrong, and it was the tipping point for me, and my response to her was larger than her offense. I remember the event well. I asked if they were willing to forgive me for the event and for introducing her to the idea she was a disappointment. I did not introduce her to that – the enemy did, but he worked through my choice not to manage my emotions well. Forgiving me removes the hook the enemy was using against them. We asked Jesus what LIE they believed because of this event, and He said, “That when Mom is upset, it means you will be alone.” I knew it was their truth because, when Jesus revealed that, great emotion came over them. Suddenly so many things about this child made sense. It was coming across like they were great at serving and kindness, yet it was really a fear of not wanting to upset me. Ugh. We broke agreement with the lie and asked Jesus for His truth. I had them sit in front of me and prophetically hand over the responsibility of managing my emotions back over to me. I handed back their God-given right to be a child, make mistakes, and learn from them. I prayed over them that Holy Spirit would erase that memory from her mind whenever she saw me having emotions, and it would no longer be an association or trigger. We hugged for a very long time. I invited them to go do something that would bring them great joy because joy resets brain chemicals, and joy is warfare.

Parents, I made a mess by not managing my emotions well, and here we are YEARS later, and that single event is still affecting my child. But this is what I want you to hear – #1. I do not partner with condemnation or accusation. I am on a journey. I make messes, too. God is still deep at work with me through my own journey of learning more and more how to be His daughter. I already asked for forgiveness when the event happened, and I am forgiven. I cannot and do not allow the enemy to spank me for what Jesus has already paid the price for (someone needed to hear that!). #2. THIS lie would have come up in my child’s future marriage when their spouse got upset with them or when they became a parent. It would have created bad fruit, and finally, they would have gone to someone for help, and what would Jesus have shown them? That when they were younger, their mother didn’t manage her emotions well, which created a lie.

THE FACT THAT WE CAN RESOLVE THIS **IN** CHILDHOOD IS HEAVEN ON EARTH. I told them when they went to bed, “I am SO glad you made a mess today because Jesus used it to reveal something so deep inside your heart, and today you got set free from a lie that would have shaped your life.”

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WHAT DOES JESUS SEE?

When I was in my early 20s, I was roommates with a gal who was younger than me but more mature in every way. I would describe her as having Jesus in one hand and my hand in the other, and she would constantly introduce us in new ways. I learned so much from her. One day I had an appointment to get my car worked on, and she agreed to pick me up. I got my car checked in and was waiting outside for her. She was late – like really late. I wandered the sidewalk for over 30 minutes, growing more and more agitated. When she finally appeared, she found me in my car, speeding off without having the work done. I was mad. VERY mad. I punished her with the silent treatment and refused to talk to her. Over the years, I felt bad for how I treated her and gained some maturity in realizing that it was pretty lame of me to be so upset when she was going out of her way to help me. The memory always told the story of my bad behavior and being so rude, but I heard God say, “Ask Me to show you what I saw,” and I saw this picture in my mind of a little girl shaking; she was so scared by being left alone at night outside. She was surrounded by fear and intimidation as she was utterly unprotected and vulnerable. I realized at that moment my reaction to her had little to do with a friend who was late to pick me up and more about it triggering my memory of being vulnerable, alone, and left behind. My strong reaction was not about being impatient but about trying to feel protected and safe again. Over the years, I have learned about these splinters in our hearts that cause big reactions when touched. God does not want us to manage them but be FREE from them.

How about you? Do you have a memory that pops up often in your mind that tells the story of how ‘bad’ or wrong you behaved? Ask Jesus to show you what He sees.