Moms and Dads, YOU ARE POSITIONED AS THE HEAD, NOT THE TAIL! “We are the head and not the tail, above and not beneath” (Deuteronomy 28:13). Read Ephesians 2:6 to see where you are positioned. This is not the kind of trump or victory you can do of your own strength. God’s power and faithfulness to His word positions you as the head and not the tail; HOWEVER, there is a TWO-LETTER contingency on this promise. IF – if you keep my commands, you will be the head, not the tail.
FAMILY MEETING – Gather the kids and together read the 10 Commandments. While it would be easy to assume murder does not apply to your family, hate is a form of murder. So is unforgiveness because it kills the life-giving connection. Walk through each commandment and discuss the specific ways they apply to your family. HOWEVER, there is one we need to camp out in and get a grasp on this hour. In Matthew 22:36-39 (MSG), “‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?’ Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'”
SECOND GREATEST – Jesus gives us the second greatest commandment. Talk about what it looks like in this hour to love others. Look up 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Explore this deeply as a family.
PROPHETIC ACTS – This is where parenting becomes FUN! A prophetic act is simply acting out a Biblical principle, Scripture, or character of God to help people grasp His truth. You could all fold your hands, close your eyes, bow your heads, pray, or do a prophetic act to align your heart with His. When I wanted to really help my children grasp a Biblical principle such as kindness, loving others, or telling the truth, I would find a verse and then tell everyone to go in their rooms for seven minutes and write a song about it. They had to come out, and we had a family talent show laughing and giggling at their songs. But it was driving down the point of the Scriptures in their hearts.
PUPPY LOVE – Play a game and have everyone act like a dog. Joy breaks out when Mom begins to bark, and Dad sticks out his tongue, wagging his tail. Ask everyone to act out being excited when the owners come home. Act out the dog being hungry and getting his food. How about playing with other dogs? Then have them act out a dog being scared and nervous. The joy and confidence in the room moves to quiet and timidness. Sometimes when dogs are scared or stressed, they bite. Gather the kids and explain that dogs are designed to be playful and joyful, but when put in situations that make them overwhelmed, they can become very intimidated or aggressive. What does the dog need at that moment? An owner who loves them enough to protect them. Explain that we can be like the dog at times and how we ‘bite’ those we love when we feel overwhelmed and stressed. But we have a God who is like the owner who loves, protects, and leads us. In the days ahead, when your child is acting like a stressed dog, remind them of this teaching and help usher them to God’s truth that they are okay and this will work out, He cares about their heart, and it will be okay. Remind them that their job is to be full of joy and love while God handles the details.
WHO IS FIRST? – Gather the family and write down all of the things that are ‘BIG’ in their world including school, making friends, etc. After the list is complete, draw a line under it (it is okay that the list takes up most of the paper). Under the line, write out John 3:16. And then flip the paper upside down. Explain how the things that are BIG in their world can feel heavy and can sometimes make us feel like God’s truth is small or even shrinking, but the truth is (flipping the paper upside down) that God’s character, promises, and faithfulness are unchanging despite circumstances, and we can filter every single thing written on the list through the lens of His perfect love.