PARENTING MISTAKES

PARENTING MISTAKES

  • Encouragement, JOURNEY

PARENTING MISTAKES

My friend shared this golden testimony: “My mother was highly emotionally volatile and sometimes physically abusive. God has healed so much in me, but having a volatile kid has brought me to new places I didn’t know I needed healing. One of which was a fear that my daughter and I wouldn’t have a close relationship if I made mistakes. Part of this I realized was that my mother died before there was any reconciliation and refused to clean up her mess before her passing. I am quick to repent, own my mistakes, and show what healthy reconciliation looks like. Anyway, I began to dialogue with the Holy Spirit about my parenting mistakes – and I heard Him ask me to ask Him what my mistakes look like when I bring them to Him. So I did. And I saw that each time I made a mistake and owned it to my kids and brought it to Him – it was a form of intercession. He would tuck it like a piece of paper in His pocket for later when it’s needed. There is SO much about my daughter’s healing and process that I cannot fix for her. He reminded me that my best is good enough, and the revelation of what my mistakes look like to Him was priceless.”

NOT JUST FOR PARENTS

One of my spiritual daughters shared this sweet testimony of ministering to a young gal. Our JOURNEY class is not just for loving your children but all of His children. 

“Hi Lisa, here is a testimony I wanted to share with you. The lessons I have learned through Let the Children fly helped me lead her to Christ for this healing. This girl is not a mom yet and is struggling with some insecurities and lies that she believes. So I walked her through writing down those lies and tearing them up, stomping on them, rejecting the lies, and how to instead accept God’s truths, as you taught me in the JOURNEY class. Here is her testimony on what that did for her: ‘Hey! So I finally had the guts to do it last night. I wrote down all the lies and things that kept hurting me in my mind and flushed them down the toilet. It came out to be about six pages worth of crap. It took me a while to get the courage to do it. The crazy part is that I wrote it in a red marker, and about halfway through ripping it, I realized that red represented Jesus’ blood. I was just choosing a marker, and I chose the red one. I was praying while doing it. I feel so much better now like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I feel like I can accomplish and do what I am called to do now. It sounds cheesy, but I feel free now and confident in myself and the Lord. It’s already been a blessing that He took those lies and stomped on them! I’m so excited to live! To truly live freely! No more bondage!’”

LIFE CHANGING

One mom writes: “Wow, how life changing to take hold of this as a young child! Nothing in the natural that parents want to give their kids (great education, experiences, etc.) comes anywhere near the importance and impact of the truths in the past few days’ lessons.”

JOURNEY CLASS

“This course has really helped me recognize my behaviors and start to understand the why behind them. I’ve become more aware of how I’m saying things to my kids. We have been talking much more openly and more often about God. I’m excited to continue to use the tools I’ve learned. We have been practicing soaking, and I hope to keep that a part of our weekly routine. It’s amazing the conversations we’ve been having! Thank you. I’ve been able to identify the root of so many issues. Change and healing have already started happening simply because it has been brought into the light. I so appreciate all of the practical steps you offered.”

GET UP AND FIGHT!

Back in my 20’s, I was hospitalized for three months, and upon waking from my coma, I discovered I had kidney, liver, and respiratory failure. I was pretty sick and very weak. My vital organs were all compromised, and I almost died because of it. One of the hardest parts of that journey was physical therapy, where I had to mentally train my body to work again. All I wanted to do was lay down and quit. It was too hard. I did not have the muscle strength to do what my circumstances demanded of me. My muscles felt like a wet noodle. I wanted to stop. I wanted to quit. I wanted to be left alone, but my PT cared about my health journey and knew it was best to push me, call me further, and expect more of myself SO THAT I could be strong and healthy again. I am so glad they could see further down the road than my eyes could at that moment. I needed to trust their wisdom in order to pull myself out of that pit. 

Here’s the deal – many of you have been in a spiritual coma. Things have happened and caused your muscles to feel fatigued. You are like a wet noodle in the spiritual realm and have simply laid down and quit. You have allowed the toxins of life to affect your spiritual health. I get it more than you know. But we cannot remain in bed, hoping and praying that God will supernaturally step in and heal us where He has invited us to take our place. We must do our part. You have to get out of bed and begin using those muscles again, as hard as it is and as weak as you may feel. You have come too far to quit now. Your children will reap the fruit of your choices one way or another.

KEEP GOING

The road between revelation to testimony is often long and hard but so worth it. Keep walking…

CONNECTION

On the second day of our online Kingdom parenting class, we talk about CONNECTION. I asked if their parents saw the value in them. There are always two camps. Those who were raised in dysfunctional homes and those whose parents tucked them in at night, took them to Disney, showered them with love and attention, provided for them, and enjoyed them. But there was always a BUT… Since I was in the first camp, this bothered me. Whenever day two would come around, I KNEW what the answers would be, and I would brace myself. Seriously, how can you have a “BUT…” when your parents were there for you, loved you, and were involved in your world? That is until Jesus spoke. He told me that I was becoming judgmental of those who claimed to have a great childhood and still confessed something was missing. Because it was HIM who put that void there. NO child is wired to be 100% filled by their mom and dad. There are some places in our hearts that are reserved for Him. This is great news. If Jesus is ultimately who our children need to be connected with in order to be whole, then maybe 18 years of parenting is less about us and should be more about Him! Even if you were perfect, it would not be enough, so let’s stop trying (and feeling guilty about it when we are not) and usher our children to the only perfect Parent.

PROUD OF YOU

Has anyone told you lately how proud they are of you? Seriously, many of you are first-generation Christians trying to raise godly children while building a solid foundation for yourself. You are not able to pull on your childhood experiences and what was modeled for you and are pioneering your way. You ARE doing it, and you are doing a good job. Keep going. He is so very proud of you.

GLORY TO GLORY

This mom owned her partnership with Jesus while taking our JOURNEY class:

“Yet this is my confession: HE was not ignorant of my woundings and shortcomings when He entrusted me with these little men. He has never called me perfect, just HIS. I can clean up any mess I’ve made by the power of the Spirit that lives within me. My God LOVES to redeem my mistakes and gives all the treasures back WITH interest. I declare that my children will not only be HEALED of any past or future wounding they might receive from me or anyone else, but they will also GAIN AUTHORITY in the process to set many captives free in the same areas. I declare that what the enemy intended for evil, my God turns to MORE good in our family. I declare that we are on the fast track as a family toward the greatness God deposited in each of us in our mother’s wombs and that we will be iron sharpening iron as we move from glory to glory!”

WE ALL NEED JESUS!

It always surprises me when I hear people talk about me as if I have mastered this concept of parenting with Jesus. Let me be the first to tell you I have great experience partnering with Jesus to raise children up to 16 years. A day after that, I need Him just as much today as I did yesterday. It was never meant to be a maturity that we reach to begin walking confidently on our own but a constant dependence upon Him. I blow it, make mistakes, feel confused, am overwhelmed, doubt myself, wonder if I am enough, don’t know what to do, feel clueless about what my children need, etc. It keeps me dependent, humble, and seeking Him just as much today as I did years ago when I first discovered He was my Husband. Get your eyes off the goal of ‘arriving’ and settle into the fact you will always need Him in your parenting, and that, my friend, is the best position to be in.

HOW LIVES HAVE BEEN CHANGED BY JOURNEY

“Thank you for the encouragement, Lisa, and for cheering us on! Seeing this in practice is building such a foundation for wanting more! Talk about ‘Heaven is for real!'”

“I have made a few decisions in my life that have marked significant trajectory launches in my journey with Christ and learning from you this month is one of them. Like bomb size significant. Really powerful and opening up Heaven on earth for me.” 

“I see the amazing capabilities of our children, and I want them to know they have it all with Jesus. I want to shout ‘Go!’ as I run behind them! Thank you, Lisa, you have opened my eyes to see clearer as a momma!” 

“Wow! I am picking up so much truth in this class already. Not only do I feel this season is different with Jesus, but I’m also already experiencing it, as it’s SO refreshingly good. I can feel my spirit coming alive again.” 

Let’s begin your journey today! Journey – ONLINE CLASS – Let the Children Fly