Moms of little ones often lament that they aren’t doing anything significant in their life other than changing diapers, doing laundry, and cleaning the house. WHAT A LIE! The season where you usher children into the world is one of the most *powerful* seasons in your bloodline. You are standing at the gate as a new mom deciding what you do and do not want to pass on to your child. You are being given a chance to say, “My parents did an outstanding job of X and Y, and I want to give my child that same gift.” You are also saying, “I do not want my child to experience X and Y and will seek to bring that area into alignment for their good.” POWERFUL! Moms of little ones, do not believe the lie of your insignificance in this season. You are like a Customs and Border Protection Officer in your bloodline!
MOMS OF LITTLES
How many of you feel strange unrest or restlessness? A feeling of wondering if you should move somewhere? We moved across the country in the middle of the shutdown, which was a super odd and unique thing to experience, but many months later, we all still have this strange restlessness. I was asking the Lord about it and heard Him say this, “You are longing for home (heaven).” Never before in our generation have we endured so much unrest in our land, and it is causing a longing for home. This isn’t a suicidal thought but rather a holy ache as we know Earth is not our home.
This is a wild season for us, yet God is in the midst of using it for our good. He is allowing things to be seen, healed, and aligned, which is breathtaking. Only God can use this profound season of lack, isolation, and stillness and use it for our greatest transformation. We don’t have to make anything happen; we need to let Him do what He does best – finish the good work He has already begun in each of us.
I have received so many messages from parents who are feeling Him highlight areas that need to come into alignment. If you would like additional help in this season with parent triggers, parenting your child well, or resolving conflict, you can either private message me or schedule an appointment here: Coaching – Let the Children Fly
Your children are not victims of your journey.
I AM SO PROUD OF THE COUNTLESS PARENTS WHO ARE STANDING STRONG IN THIS HOUR.
I know many do not feel strong, but you are not letting go of your children. You are standing in the water and getting back up after being knocked down. You are holding onto Jesus with everything you have. You are fighting on your knees like never before. You are allowing God to do heart surgery on you despite the pain and uncomfortableness. You are managing the tension between the current and the more. Keep standing! God sees you, and so do I!
Isn’t this testimony beautiful? Be encouraged, mamas, that prayer and faith in our Almighty God works and that He cares more about your child than you ever could. “All your children will be taught by the Lord, and great will be your children’s peace” (Isaiah 54:13).
“After my sons moved to Colorado, I began declaring this Scripture over them in my daily prayer times, believing that even though I could no longer be with them daily to teach them as I had before, that the Lord would be faithful to teach them. I want to share a testimony of how this happened recently. On their last visit, one of my sons told me that he had had a conversation with someone about his relationship with God and his belief in the Bible. This person told my son they didn’t think an old book should be telling us how to live our lives. My son didn’t argue with them or know what to say, but later, he said he got alone with Jesus and asked Him what He thought about that. He opened up his Bible in faith, asking God to speak to him (ok, so I did teach him that trick.) ‘Mom,’ he said, ‘the verse I opened up to was this, “the grass withers and the flowers fall but the Word of our God stands forever!” (Isaiah 40:8).’ That verse gave him all the peace and confidence he needed at that moment. I want to encourage Holy Spirit is a great teacher. He can go places we could never go and do things we could never do! I pray this is a special encouragement to someone today.”
When my children were little, I remember reading a book by a mom saying that she wanted her kids to wake up and find her spending time with Jesus every morning. It struck me so profoundly, and I wanted my kids to witness my love for Jesus in such a real and tangible way. My heart melted when my son gave me a prophetic drawing of the Father and I sitting together. .
I want to talk about compassion – for yourself. Compassion simply means having tenderness towards the areas that cause our hearts concern. Compassion is a balm to our hurting hearts. While it would be fabulous if everyone around us ministered this ingredient to our hearts daily, it doesn’t often work that way. In reality, when we aren’t able to be compassionate to our own heart, it makes it even harder to receive it from others.
When was the last time you sat and intentionally championed your own heart?
Many of us feel traces (or bucket fulls) of shame during the day – shame over our looks, belonging, parenting or relationships. The only antidote to shame is compassion. Shame can’t be rebuked, ignored or fixed. It only leaves when compassion is smeared all over it.
I encourage you to print the following list out or write a few of them on a sticky note and place them on your mirror. Speak them over yourself at LEAST once a day but allow them to be your go-to when your own heart needs tenderness.
It feels silly, I know. But trust me when I say that applying compassion to your own heart is a key to connecting with His heart because we can’t receive (from Him and others) what we don’t give ourselves. This is quite simple, yet deeply profound.
- I see you trying so hard
- I am proud of you
- I am sorry you feel sad
- I am sorry you feel alone
- I am sorry you feel scared
- I can tell you care so much
- Take all the time you need
- You are going to be ok
- I will sit with you until you feel safe
- I accept you
- I value you
- I am sorry you feel trapped
- I think you’re brave
- I don’t want to get rid of you
- I don’t see you as broken
- I see you
- I enjoy you
How does this make you feel?
What was it like reading the list?
What kind of parent/person would you be if you were a pro at being tender to your own heart?
Some parents are in crisis with their children and are desperate for new tools, while others are simply hungry for more. Some come from generations of strong believers; others are brand new to the faith. Some have teenagers or grown children; others have wee ones. There is a place for YOU. Your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.
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Do you long to be the parent you dreamed of when you were younger? Do you desire a deeper connection with your children? Is peace in your home something you crave? I declare it is possible as I have seen it in the lives of parents across the globe!
It always surprises me when I hear people talk about me as if I have mastered this concept of parenting with Jesus. Let me be the first to tell you I have great experience partnering with Jesus to raise children up to 16 years. A day after that, I need Him just as much today as I did yesterday. It was never meant to be a maturity that we reach to begin walking confidently on our own but a constant dependence upon Him. I blow it, make mistakes, feel confused, am overwhelmed, doubt myself, wonder if I am enough, don’t know what to do, feel clueless about what my children need, etc. It keeps me dependent, humble, and seeking Him just as much today as I did years ago when I first discovered He was my Husband. Get your eyes off the goal of ‘arriving’ and settle into the fact you will always need Him in your parenting, and that, my friend, is the best position to be in.