I WASN’T LISTENING

I WASN’T LISTENING

  • Connection, JOURNEY

I WASN’T LISTENING

I love, love, love when moms write to me with their excitement over partnering with Holy Spirit in their parenting. 

A mom shares: “I want to thank you for all of your posts about letting the Holy Spirit guide you in parenting. My son was having a serious meltdown this morning because of a change in plans for the weekend. As he was screaming at me, I thought I needed to pray and listen to what he was really trying to say. I asked him again what he was really upset about, and he told me, ‘Their dogs.’ He was afraid to stay at his cousin’s house because of their dogs. But I wasn’t listening. I was just trying to make plans and move on. I have yet to take any of your classes, but the Lord is using you through your posts to work on my heart and how I parent. Thank you.”

GLORY TO GLORY

This mom owned her partnership with Jesus while taking our JOURNEY class:

“Yet this is my confession: HE was not ignorant of my woundings and shortcomings when He entrusted me with these little men. He has never called me perfect, just HIS. I can clean up any mess I’ve made by the power of the Spirit that lives within me. My God LOVES to redeem my mistakes and gives all the treasures back WITH interest. I declare that my children will not only be HEALED of any past or future wounding they might receive from me or anyone else, but they will also GAIN AUTHORITY in the process to set many captives free in the same areas. I declare that what the enemy intended for evil, my God turns to MORE good in our family. I declare that we are on the fast track as a family toward the greatness God deposited in each of us in our mother’s wombs and that we will be iron sharpening iron as we move from glory to glory!”

MARCH FORTH

It is hard to describe the cry of my heart for families to be awakened and aligned with Him in this critical season. I am expecting God to do big things in your family as you say YES to Him. I feel a rising in my spirit as families MARCH FORTH and take background that has been lost, stolen, or asleep in their family.

GLORY TO GLORY

God is moving so powerfully through families right now. I am undone by the fruit of seeds planted in families and how God is growing them in this hour. Now is the time to invest in your family and partner with Him in your parenting.

PURSUING YOUR SON’S HEART

How have I pursued his heart over the years? Teaching him godly character, explaining on his level what connection looks like, allowing him space but not isolation, never letting the sun go down in anger or conflict, speaking his love language daily, calling out tones and attitudes, intentionally restoring the joy chemicals in his brain, hugging him, telling him I love him in words other than “I love you”, speaking over him who he is called to be, prophesying over his future, not tolerating slammed doors or storming off, teaching him how to respect me in actions and speech, limiting the number of video games, not allowing violence to entertain him, role-playing how to interact with his sisters when he is upset, fighting in the spirit realm over him, speaking over his future success – “You are going to be…”, being aware when there are emotional or relational walls, telling him the fruit he will bear with his choices (good or bad), helping him see how good connection feels and how it is worth the work it takes!

PEACE VS. FREEDOM

Our goal as church leaders and parents should not be peace. Instead, our goal as believers has to be FREEDOM from what causes the patterns of chaos in the first place. It is the freedom that naturally produces peace. But to go after peace without freedom is nothing short of behavior modification, legalism, and denying the power of the Cross.

BEING THE LIGHT

A mom shared: “When I think about how empowering learning to partner with the Holy Spirit in my parenting is, it blows my mind. For example, a mom was dropping her daughter off at my son’s preschool class one morning, and her daughter was throwing a full-blown fit. It ended with the mom leaving her writhing daughter in the teacher’s arms. As I talked with the mom on the way out to our cars after drop-off, I could sense she felt powerless as she spoke. She didn’t know what to do, what was wrong with her daughter, why she was crying, etc. If she knew that her daughter had a heart splinter, an empty love tank, was believing a lie – any of these things – she could have moved towards her daughter rather than away from her, but she had no idea and ended up leaving in such uncertainty. I released peace over her as we went to our cars.”

If this describes your struggle in parenting, join us for the next online JOURNEY parenting class. You can register here: Journey – ONLINE CLASS – Let the Children Fly

OLD OPERATING SYSTEMS

I get messages daily from parents sharing challenging and painful experiences with their children. They are overwhelmed and need help. My heart goes out to them and only fuels my passion for empowering parents. But here’s the truth – something isn’t a quick ‘try this, and it will work.’ There is a family dynamic and lifestyle that needs to come into alignment. The old ones aren’t working. That doesn’t mean God doesn’t have a solution. It means you haven’t discovered it yet. That is exactly how I help parents through the online Kingdom parenting class. It isn’t intellectual teaching, but rather together, we walk through the process of going deeper in your parenting journey to impact the generations.

GOD’S WAY WORKS

A mom walking through our JOURNEY class shared: “I have to tell you, I’ve been seeing positive changes and more peace in our home. The last three days, particularly in our homeschool, have been GREAT!! I have an even greater hope today that we will continue seeing more fruit in our family from remembering and practicing intimacy with Father God. Actually, I’m excited to co-parent with Holy Spirit!”

FAMILY TRANSFORMATION

It is messages like this that make me weep. Families are being transformed. God is so good.

“Lisa, what you do/have done continues to have a significant impact on my children and me. I’m seeing fruit from the choice I made to attend your class almost 5 years ago. I cannot tell you how often I have sat my children down and said, ‘Let’s ask Jesus about that.’ And we use the flashlight tool. The discernment my children are gaining is phenomenal. Because of going hard after their hearts like you modeled and taught me to do, they are able to see, discern and process what they are going through WAY more grounded than would have been possible otherwise. I would need to write a letter to share it all. It can’t fit in a text. Thank you.”

You can register here: Journey – ONLINE CLASS – Let the Children Fly

SELF-HATRED

JOURNEY isn’t about a moment, a one-time fix, or a parenting program. This is about a journey of going deeper with Him. This precious mama changes her children’s lives simply by being willing to go further in her journey with Him.

“This lesson really revealed a heart splinter of my own that has been festering for two decades. As a child, I had a strong desire to go to the Air Force Academy. Looking back, I know this idea was planted by my father, a pro-military man. Being the youngest of seven kids, I also think there was some pressure to perform for the financial gain as well as sort of the ‘last-ditch effort’ from my dad. I had always been closer to my dad and felt I didn’t measure up to the perfect daughter ideal that my mother had. I would rather be in the barn with Dad than shop for the latest styles at the mall. I wholeheartedly partnered with the lie that I could achieve favor with my earthly father IF I could just get into the Academy. I worked on every piece of my life to make the Air Force Academy a reality. I pushed and pushed to be the best at all things – school, sports, standardized tests, volunteering… anything that would get me ahead and get me in. The irony is I didn’t get in, and my dad never forgave me. This year on my birthday, he mocked and ridiculed me for it again in front of my closest friends. I finally realized it wasn’t about me – my Heavenly Father was carrying me and loving me through a whole decade of self-hatred after that event. I felt abandoned by my family and was in a real state of self-defeat. I tried relationships, alcohol, and eating disorders and all those lies created more hurt and heart splinters. I prayed daily for relief from the sadness, and in hindsight, I saw God was carrying me and protecting me from myself through all those years. As I surrendered my experience, I vowed not to do that to my children. They will know God’s peace, His enduring love for them, and the truth that their worth is from Him and nothing I put upon them. I also see now that I am worthy of His love and that nothing I have done has separated me from His love.”

Parents, I invite you to join the JOURNEY. Your children will thank you for it! Journey – ONLINE CLASS – Let the Children Fly