Family Devotions

Families pressing into together


2 Timothy 3:1-3 (KJV) – “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good.”

As parents, we are called to hear the Word and respond. When I read that verse, my stomach feels like a pit. I so do not want that for my children, nor the culture around them. However, God is alerting us to reality, and it is our job to respond. I have done a lot of things right in my parenting and have enjoyed the fruit, but I am seeing a greater need to CULTIVATE A DEEPER DEPENDENCY UPON THE WORD! I would always talk about Scriptures, Biblical principles, and our household rules and discipline that reflect His Kingdom. Still, I am seeing a need to help cultivate their own relationship with the Word even more. When I see a need in my children, I partner with God and ask for His strategy. He gave me the idea of getting Proverbs deeper into their heart. I searched for a reading plan, and we will dive deep into Proverbs as a family. My kids are older, so it will include more discussion time, but for younger children, you can act it out, discuss how the Proverb applies to their world, role play, memorize it, etc.



Parents message me almost weekly asking what devotions I recommend for their children. Can I be blunt? I don’t! I passionately believe that children need the WORD OF GOD directly. A devotional is not a substitute spiritual teacher.* Part of the armor God has given us is the sword of the Word, and children, now more than ever, need to be armed with the truth of His WORD. Teach them in childhood how to have a relationship with the Word, and it will reap a lifetime of fruit. Instead of seeking an author’s words to parent your child spiritually, they need you to learn how to explore the Word together with them. When they are walking through something together, seek verses on the subject. Buy one-year Bibles for each family member and read Psalms at breakfast time or the New Testament before bed. Then, simply open up the Gospels and begin reading the story together. Stop, talk about it, ask questions, ponder, search for answers and enjoy exploring it together. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up (Deuteronomy 11:19).

**This is not an argument against devotion. It is about realigning our hearts to be the spiritual leaders of our home and making sure we are not abdicating that role to Christian educators, Sunday School leaders, and Christian authors.


For family devotions, each child asked Jesus for a verse. Hudson heard, “God is our strength.” I felt like we were supposed to say it out loud a couple of times. We often take this verse to say God makes US strong so we can be powerful, but the verse is actually saying HE is the strength. Our muscles are actually HIMSELF. This is a game-changer – we aren’t called to be powerful and strong in ourselves. We are called to have HIS power and strength.


Mis·take (noun) – an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong. 

We all fall short of God’s standard, so we will, at times, make mistakes, be wrong and fail. Jesus was confronted in Matthew with a question. A logical question that made sense, but Jesus first responded by telling them they had made a MISTAKE in their asking. Jesus replied, “Your mistake is that you don’t know the Scriptures, and you don’t know the power of God.” The mistake was not the question. The mistake was that they did not know the Word of God. 

How much of our struggles in the world stem from simply not KNOWING and then APPLYING the Word of God? If you want children who can navigate through the days ahead with success, they need to avoid this mistake. They need to be lovers of the Word and have a deep value for its truth. In the days ahead, when you encounter issues with your child (hitting, lying, rudeness, lack of self-control, etc.), together search for what the Bible says on these topics. For older children, ask them to come up with three Scriptures on the topic. Let their understanding be shaped by what He has to say on the matter. Get in the habit of searching and looking for the answer IN HIS WORD. 

For a week, commit to meeting at the end of the day and picking one topic that affected your day as a family. Search the Word for what He has to say about it.


When you think of persecution, what words come to mind? Fear? Intimidation? Worry? Lack? The apostle Paul was no stranger to the world of being persecuted, and yet he describes it with words like joy, honor, growth, and opportunity. This generation has been introduced to an anti-bullying campaign. While I fully agree, no child should have to endure bullying. My concern is that it has taught this generation to simply raise their hand every time someone so much as bumps into them, expecting someone will come to their rescue and stop their discomfort. This generation needs to have the skill sets to deal with bullying, pressure, and real persecution.

What skill sets are needed?

Identity – You can’t fight a battle properly if you don’t know who you are (or you will be fighting the wrong battle). When words, slander, accusation, and misunderstandings happen, they become events, not defining moments that cripple your worth and value. We say OUCH and respond appropriately without cowering or retaliation. In the days to come, when your child endures challenging moments, and reacts, help them process the truth about who they are despite the events. I have empowered my children to ask, “Jesus, will You please shine Your flashlight in my heart and show me what LIE am I believing right now?” Much of the time, their above-average reaction to the situation was because they believed a lie about who they were. Break up with the lie by declaring, “I confess I have partnered with the lie that _____. I break up with that lie and renounce it (I taught my children that renouncing it was like breaking it over your leg like you would a stick).” Follow up by asking, “Jesus, what is Your truth?” The more you can help them walk through this, the faster they will be to run to Him in their moment of distress. As the kids got used to this, I would begin saying, “Why don’t you go to your room and grab your journal and talk to Jesus,” and they would ask these questions on their own. Now I don’t have to coach them because they WANT to process this with Him of their own accord. Pray for an increased understanding of who you are as a Son and Daughter.

Authority – When we learn our powerful authority in Christ, we learn how to use it in battle to fight the right enemy. We do not have authority over other humans whom God has given a free will to make their own choices, but we do have authority over the spirit realm that operates through a person. If someone makes accusations or slander against you, you can bind the spirit from using your name. If someone attempts to control you through words, you can take authority over the spirit of intimidation. I say something like, “Spirit of intimidation. I see you and do not partner with you. I break any agreement associated with my name.” Moms and dads, you have got to know your own spiritual authority so that you can empower and equip your children. Pursue understanding authority as a family.

Suffering – Yes, I said children need to learn how to suffer well. If we teach our children a life with Christ is all about the platform, fame, and blessings, we are setting them up for real failure. Following Christ means denying ourselves and picking up our Cross. Suffering to a child means not getting the cookie before dinner, having to go to bed when you tell them, or not being able to get that new toy while grocery shopping. To a child, this is a big deal. Our response should be to offer comfort and validation in their suffering, not to relieve them from the pain of suffering. Children who have never had to endure suffering, learn how to manage it and will have an incredibly hard time when real pressure and hardship come down the road. Suffering allows us to have fellowship with a Savior that understands. Talk about this with your family and how Jesus suffered, and when we walk through hard things, Jesus not only understands but we can walk with Him in it.


I am deeply convicted about this hour of refinement for the Church. As a friend and out of care for your heart, I ask:

  1. Are you drinking deep from God’s word? 
  2. Is there any part of your heart that needs to be seen or heard and not ignored? 
  3. Who do you need to forgive? 
  4. Is Jesus getting your best or leftovers? 
  5. What needs to be addressed or come into alignment with your children/spouse?

We are in this for the long haul, and I care enough to ask, as we all need little heart checks!


Do not be unwise in this hour! I have noticed that many people who were once ‘on fire,’ full of passion and love for the Lord, appear to be dry, flat, and behaving in a way I didn’t see before (foul speech, sharp words, uncaring actions). I was asking the Lord about it, as it surprised me. I realized at that moment how many people gained their passion by someone else going to the secret place with God and sharing it. People come to enjoy the revelation and intimacy of others and share in some of the fruit, but they have no oil of their own. Now that the church has been affected for months, people are drying up, not because God isn’t good or that they have turned their hearts, but because they are used to enjoying someone else’s oil and do not know how to get it for themselves. The Word says they missed Jesus because they did not have their own oil. 

How do you get oil?

  • Spend time with Him
  • Be in the Word
  • Pray
  • Declare
  • Worship Him
  • Be grateful
  • Study Scripture
  • Take communion
  • Believe
  • Adore Him
  • Understand the times and season
  • Be expectant
  • Resolve those heart issues
  • Seek His face
  • Honor His Word

This isn’t a one-time event. It is a cultivated LIFESTYLE. Matthew 25: 8-9 “Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’ ‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both you and us. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves…’ so they went out, but it was too late. They missed Him. Do not be unwise in this hour.


When was the last time family members used harsh tones, unkind words, or sent messages of disapproval? When was the last time family members gathered to call out the good, honorable, and kind things in each other? In a family, we will find the flesh, but we can cultivate the spirit by intentionally creating space to speak life and declare truth over each other. Gather and answer the following questions over each person. 

What am I really good at? 

What do you love most about me? 

How have I helped you lately? 

What do I add to the family? 

How do you see Jesus in me? 

Make up your own!


I cannot love this testimony anymore! A mom was trying to be super intentional to keep her daughters spiritually fed during C-19. They were going to a co-op group, but the girls were bored to tears and begged to stop going. The mom then tried another Christian group, but the leader’s daughter was super controlling, and the girls felt like it was more about the girl than Jesus and did not like feeling used and mistreated each week. The daughter finally came to her mom and said, “Can’t we just please do Awana at home as a family?” YES!! There is indeed a time and place to gather corporately, and we learn and gain things in community that are vital, but that does not need to replace the power of the home and feeding our spirits together.

Why not create a once-a-week FAMILY TIME? Let it be a time of worship, soaking, journaling, giving prophetic words to each other, praying, declaring, discussing important topics, going on a hunt to find people to love, creating skits, or understanding certain Bible passages. 


We often refer to Judas as the man who betrayed Jesus. He did, and it was painful and ugly. But there is more to the story. Call a family meeting and instead of focusing on judgment towards Judas for his actions, focus on Jesus’ friendship with him.