ASK LISA – PARTNERING WITH HOLY SPIRIT

My eldest daughter hears God so well, but my younger daughter is struggling. It is like she hears but then says, “I don’t know,” and is discouraged. How do I help her?

My eldest daughter hears God so well, but my younger daughter is struggling. It is like she hears but then says, “I don’t know,” and is discouraged. How do I help her?

It is not uncommon for some children to grasp hearing God fast and well and for other children to be on a journey very similar to learning the ABC’s or learning how to read. Asking Holy Spirit, I heard that she is comparing herself to her sister and because the way she hears isn’t the same as her sister’s fluency, she is partnering with doubt. 

I encourage you to call a family meeting and do a fun exercise with the girls. Blindfold one of the girls and then bring out an object such as an orange or piece of paper (any object). Ask your eldest daughter to engage with the object with her eyes, only calling out what she sees (round, orange, small, etc.). She will be able to do it with ease. Then have your blindfolded daughter grab the object and call out how she is engaging with the object. She will be able to ‘see’ things through touch that her oldest sister couldn’t just by using her eyes. You may want to do this with a couple of different objects taking turns who is blindfolded. Afterward, I would go to your youngest daughter in private and encourage her that the way she hears God IS different from others, but by His design.

MOM’S UPDATE:

“After our call, I spent time with the girls talking about the piece of paper analogy you and I discussed, and it totally clicked for her! She understood her ‘I don’t know’ in a TOTALLY different light. I also heard, ‘She needs to play more in the Kingdom,’ and I asked her if that is what she felt, and she affirmed it. I asked, ‘Jesus, what does it look like for me to play in the Kingdom?’ And with zero hesitation, she goes, ‘He wants me to dance.’ And I got the EXACT SAME THING!! Such a cool moment for her. She broke down in tears because it was like she heard perfectly!!! We’re going to keep pressing into ‘play’ to strengthen her hearing muscles, but I know for a fact that the teaching spoke to her heart as I SAW her and encouraged her in her journey the way GOD created her to engage with Him.

**Parents, the teaching above that I gave that mom is not something I have ever used before. This mom presented a problem to me with her daughter, and I simply asked Holy Spirit to reveal the issue (comparison) and to give me a creative solution. Holy Spirit doesn’t teach as in a verb. He IS teacher, as in a noun. It is who He is, and He loves giving us creative solutions to our problems and what concerns us. Ask Him!

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