ASK LISA – OVERWHELMED GRANDMOTHER

The timing of this lesson (connection over perfection) was perfect as my heart is grieving, having just spent time with my family back home. My mom gets so overwhelmed instead of just enjoying the kids, especially since she only sees them 1-2 times a year. I surrendered to Jesus my drive to have high standards so that I don’t rock the boat in my family dynamics due to my home environment. I believe I have stepped into parenting somewhat in the Kingdom, but I often slip back into control-based parenting because one of my boys has pushed the boundaries so often. Although I cried through this lesson as well, I believe things in my heart are shifting.

The timing of this lesson (connection over perfection) was perfect as my heart is grieving, having just spent time with my family back home. My mom gets so overwhelmed instead of just enjoying the kids, especially since she only sees them 1-2 times a year. I surrendered to Jesus my drive to have high standards so that I don’t rock the boat in my family dynamics due to my home environment. I believe I have stepped into parenting somewhat in the Kingdom, but I often slip back into control-based parenting because one of my boys has pushed the boundaries so often. Although I cried through this lesson as well, I believe things in my heart are shifting.

She isn’t a controlling parent. She is a parent who was once a little girl with a very overwhelmed mom who learned she had to hit the mark of perfection to keep her mama happy. God, in His mercy, knits our children in His image but with us in mind and wired this mom’s son to live outside the boundary of her small walls. The tension between mom and son was more about God’s love for the mom to get healed of the things she experienced with her mom.

ASK LISA - TIME TO START
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ASK LISA - WHO CAN RELATE?
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ASK LISA - SPANKING
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ASK LISA - DEALING WITH GRIEF
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ASK LISA - STRUGGLING TO REST
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ASK LISA - PARTNERING WITH HOLY SPIRIT
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ASK LISA - I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER
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ASK LISA - OVERWHELMED GRANDMOTHER
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ASK LISA - ON VS. WITHIN
Yes, my friend, many are experiencing very similar things in the atmosphere. The short answer is that it is not you but something in the spiritual realm...
ASK LISA - PARTNERING WITH HOLY SPIRIT
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ASK LISA - SPANKING
This is a hot topic for many. If you want to learn what the Word says about spanking, ask Holy Spirit to show you. It is His job to lead you into all truth...
ASK LISA - 5 MINUTE DATES
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ASK LISA - I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER
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ASK LISA - DEALING WITH GRIEF
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ASK LISA - WALL WITH GOD
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ASK LISA - GOD'S TRUTH
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